I am honest in that I think generally Fetlife is a good site, but it has its limitations and has got less and less enjoyable over the fourteen or so years I have been a member. The world of... See more
While we don't verify specific claims because reviewers' opinions are their own, we may label reviews as "Verified" when we can confirm a business interaction took place. Read more
To protect platform integrity, every review on our platform—verified or not—is screened by our 24/7 automated software. This technology is designed to identify and remove content that breaches our guidelines, including reviews that are not based on a genuine experience. We recognise we may not catch everything, and you can flag anything you think we may have missed. Read more
Review summary
Created with AI, based on recent reviews
What people talk about most
Reviews shaping this summary
Company details
Written by the company
FetLife is the Most Popular Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community.
Contact info
Replied to 22% of negative reviews
Typically replies within 1 week
How this company uses Trustpilot
See how their reviews and ratings are sourced, scored, and moderated.
they really suck I reported a guy that…
they really suck I reported a guy that was being a sock puppet and they did nothing

Reply from FetLife
Fetlife Staff will do nothing
Was constantly harassed on my first profile and when I tried to complain about it they never answered me but when I posted his profile and his username because he kept saying I was beneath him, I got in trouble.
I didn’t reveal anything personal, not his name, nothing else but his username since he thinks he could tell me that I’m beneath him after I lost of account for almost a month and I got in trouble while they didn’t do anything about him. Or reply. Or anything.
You will harassed. They do nothing and ruin your want to explore any kinks again. Because that’s how I’m feeling.
Edit: Now, after almost a year, they have reached out to me through here to threaten to take my review down or to be considered as a fake. Says a lot about them.
After you upload photos and do a…
After you upload photos and do a profile, they lock you out of your account unless you upload Govt. photo ID. F Off and Goodbye. Website is full of OnlyFans Women who just want you to sign up to that site. It's crap for meeting anyone.
broken website
every time I make a new account it gets locked within 24hrs with no explanation. Never get an answer from their support either. Waste of time
No active members in my area
No active members in my area. The members are not really willing to meet and do bdsm with this site. Those who knows each others are not warms for those that are not in theirs groups. They don't have urgency of life for experiment sexual meeting. Plus, the events creators at my area don't wan't to introduce me as a new members in a silent treatment. Full of rejection and people without serious respect.
needed help recovering my old account
needed help recovering my old account. Support was reactive, quick and efficient. Nowadays, it's rare to get that level of support. thanks again
amazing customer service!
amazing customer service!
my account was taken over because I did something stupid :( however, when I reached out to support not only did they respond immediately by locking the account and replying within minutes; they also worked with me to get me back in quickly and properly secure my account. further, they're taking my feedback and experience to make the platform even better :)
I couldn't have asked for anything more this is the best customer service I've received from an online community in years! this experience really gives me confidence in the people running the site!
Incel predator utopia
Tried it. Toxicity is like currency there. Hard to feel safe, Creeps everywhere, and jumping in your dm constantly and saying god awful things. Owner is active member and posts like they are 14.
Wish i had read this first. Might have saved me the headache.
Paddle priest pain before pleasure blog
Answered a casting call on Fetlife
Answered a casting call on Fetlife. The photographer (Rue99) performed an unwanted sex act. He exposed multiple models to chronic, incurable STI's including Hep B and Herpes. Fetlife refuses to take down his profile or limit his ability to post, but anyone who tries to warn about him gets suspended under the "spotting" and "doxing" policies. Fetlife does not care about user safety.
communicate with like minded…
communicate with like minded individuals great site
Break all sorts off privacy laws
Break all sorts off privacy laws, you sign in are all about safety, boom...give us your government id...you know...the stuff scammers do...
Waste of time
Waste of time. You will never in a million years meet anyone on the site. Just hookers and bots.
They block no warningThey block no…
They block no warningThey block no warning jerks
.Mods with god complexes
.Mods with god complexes
.Rudest people I've ever met
.Toxic to the extreme
.Rigged system/favouritism (if your friends with a mod or high status you can basically get away breaking every rule)
.Literally lie and make stuff up about you
Only use it to lurk for public event Literally use any other website if your looking for anything else this place is a cesspit
Garbage site for one main reason
Garbage site for one main reason: Communication.
And I'm not even talking about the guys who think they can change your mind about a hard limit.
The people who run this site have listed rules that I'm not even sure they have ever read, and have a crappy designed site that will lock you out if you "refresh too much." Speaking of getting locked out, you can also have this happen for no perceivable reason at all! And you're crazy if you think they're going to tell you.
Contact Us page may as well not exist. They WILL NOT answer your emails. I was verified, and got locked out for nothing. Sent emails to support team, and radio silence.
How they can improve?
Fix the site so refreshing isn't such an issue, and COMMUNICATE WITH PEOPLE. Answer your emails, or hire someone who will.
Was horrible if you are a women you…
Was horrible if you are a women you will have fun but if you are a guy you are nothing. Approach conversations with respect you get ignored try talking about interests you get blocked. Honestly it's a lose lose situation full of people promoting their only fans. If you want to feel less then dirt open an account other wise stay away it's healthier for your mental health and self respect.
I was hacked and my number was changed
Oh my God so like I contacted customer service today because I wanted to send some photos to somebody but my email has been hacked and I knew this from before but I thought maybe this one had the other email. And to find out it didn't so plus I've had my phone number changed I don't know you girls understand you lose your phone you have to change your phone number anyway so I'm on customer service and they're helping me out and they're like okay cool well you can't do this you can't do that take a photo of yourself let's see your ID okay I can do that I take a picture of the dress also that's inside of my closet that's in the photos and lo and behold they help me out I've been able to change my email and get away from that toxic hacked email account and Yahoo and I'm able to update my phone number so now I'm back in and I can send my cute little sexy outfits
The problem with this site its full of…
The problem with this site its full of Gate Keepers who appear to have been there since the site creation. If its meant to be about Kinkiness or Bdsm well it's fair to say it's mostly filled with porn. Not only that they want you to pay for it pretty sure you can watch porn on say Porn hub for free so why would you pay.
So if your looking to explore your Kinky side or Bdsm my advice is look elsewhere and if its porn visit Porn Hub or any other porn site.
This website was destroyed by gender…
This website was destroyed by gender politics.
Replied to a post by a only fans "porn star" in which she said that the porn industry was changing cultural norms on things like "body size".
I merely pointed out that if a person likes 5' tall asian girls, they wont change their preference to "plus size" women if they can only find "plus size" porn online.
Also noted that the male performers have not gotten "plus size" or "dad bod" like the women.
SOME how that is considered a "slur". NO explanation other then that, and its a 3 day timeout.
Also need to point out, that the only people leaving good reviews here about Fetlife are site administrators or their sock puppet accounts.
I was locked from my profile without…
I was locked from my profile without any explanation. NOT even a Word. Ive sent them 4 emails asking for the explanation 4 emails !! And no one not a single person working there was able to write something back. Unbelivable!!!! The People working there must be terrible .
The Trustpilot Experience
Anyone can write a Trustpilot review. People who write reviews have ownership to edit or delete them at any time, and they’ll be displayed as long as an account is active.
Companies can ask for reviews via automatic invitations. Labeled Verified, they’re about genuine experiences.
Learn more about other kinds of reviews.
We use dedicated people and clever technology to safeguard our platform. Find out how we combat fake reviews.
Learn about Trustpilot’s review process.
Here are 8 tips for writing great reviews.
Verification can help ensure real people are writing the reviews you read on Trustpilot.
Offering incentives for reviews or asking for them selectively can bias the TrustScore, which goes against our guidelines.







