Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel Reviews 127

This program saved my marriage of 36 years. We had an excellent marriage counselor, but still, we left our session more angry at each other than ever.
With Mort's program, we never even addressed our "issues." His program is more about concepts that work in relationships and attitudes that kill relationships. We were definitely exercising the latter in our marriage.

Dear Mort
It is ironic that you sent me the email below requesting my feedback on the program. I never had the opportunity to express my thanks to you for not only the guidance and support that I found in you in late 2015, at a time of my life when I desperately searched for anything I could find to help me through the sheer anxiety and fear, but how you continue to help me through your recordings and written work, whenever I feel myself slipping back into familiar patterns of not always "putting love first". Like rediscovering a compass in your pocket as the mist begins to once again thicken, I know that your familiar voice, calm tone, and sensible, unshakeable advice is only a few moments away on my iPhone, accessible through the "favourites" tab. I know your recordings all so well. I have begun answering the questions (in my mind when I am listening) that callers pose before you start speaking. Funny though, despite the number of times I have listened to the recordings (I shall resist the urge to exaggerate - but some of them must be running into the 60's or 70's - "Important for every situation" probably my all time favourite!), I always pick up something in what you say that I had either forgotten, or that was worth re-emphasising in my mind.
What I perhaps value the most about your advice is that it is based, in the main, on high standards of ethics and morality. The tower of moral authority comes to mind. In so many challenging situations, the question I pose to myself is "what would Mort do under these circumstances"? Although the answer is often the harder path to follow (doing "the right thing" often is in life), if I follow the advice, invariably the outcome is positive and constructive as opposed to so many situations where I have in the past done things which are so destructive to me, my wife and my marriage. In fact, apart from my marriage, it is notable how the principles you teach have assisted me in life in general, especially with my relationships. Your teachings on trust for example, are universal in the sense that they apply to all forms of behaviour, not only within the context of a marriage.
When we spoke briefly during our laser session in November 2015, I mentioned to you that you had been "my rock" over the past weeks. I recall how you genuinely reacted to this statement with sincere thanks. You must hear it a lot from people whom you talk to in your line of work, but what struck me was the sincerity with which you appreciated my saying it. I know from your recordings that you value what you do, knowing the invaluable impact you make in so many lives. I also know that you don't take this for granted, something I experienced firsthand when we spoke.
We also had a one on one session together in December 2015. I was a late call for me (21h00 I seem to recall) as I am situated in Cape Town which is 6 hours ahead of Baltimore. Towards the end of the call, you said to me "keep doing what you are doing (referring to the Lone Ranger track), and you should be successful. You stand a good chance of saving your marriage". Whilst it has obviously not been easy, you were right Mort. We're still married and in a very different place we were in 2015. It's still challenging in so many respects, make no mistake. As you know, there is no "quick fix", no switch that can be flipped and all of a sudden the lights go on forever. The law of the harvest... But what I have learnt from you, about myself and my marriage, has equipped me 1000 times (I am again not exaggerating) better to put love first and work on my marriage. Your programme is in many respects, the gift that keeps on giving; provided of course, one remains willing to keep putting in the work. On this issue, I think you do a pretty good job of explaining the value of a marriage and why "what we want, is not relevant". What's relevant, is that we value dental hygiene!
It would be a pleasure to speak with you again Mort apropos your email and invitation below. Please bear in mind my time difference of GMT +2 i.e. 6 hours ahead of you as previously mentioned. Just on that point, I think I am a good example of how your course works for people, not only in the US, but around the world.

With warm wishes and thanks.
Sincerely
Gavin

To be perfectly honest I was skeptical and wasn't sure anything was going to work. My wife and I have been together for 10 years, married for 8. When we met I had been out of the military for 4 years and I was working as a pilot. Just prior to getting married I was laid off from my airline and just working any job I could. A month after marrying, I reenlisted in the Army and deployed to Iraq, again. This was her first and only deployment. I came back with diagnosed PTSD and for 7 years things were terrible because of me. It was bad enough that the Army fully retired me for it.

I isolated myself from everyone, especially her. I was cold and uncaring, didn't help with much of anything. She was afraid of me and hurt for years. I wouldn't leave the house and went from 185 lbs to 265 lbs. I basically spiraled to rock bottom. I tried different therapies for PTSD but it wasn't until the third one that it actually worked, but just as I was coming out of everything PTSD related, she was finished and at the beginning of December she told me she was finished and wanted a divorce. It wasn't a threat, she wanted us to be over. Needless to say I was shocked, even though I shouldn't have been given how I had treated her.

It was by a complete accident that I ran across Mort's program. After reading the reviews I figured I didn't have anything to lose so I started the Lone Ranger track. My wife was obstinate to the point that I couldn't talk to her or touch her. I was sleeping in a spare bedroom on a blowup mattress. I dove into the program and followed everything as best I could, daily. I also got back into the gym. It was slow and to be honest, it felt like much wasn't happening, even after 2 months. At 3 months I noticed that we were talking more throughout the day and that was different. That went on into month 4 and we were spending more time talking and she was sharing more and more with me. Even then I felt like we might not make it because I still wasn't allowed to cross the boundary of touching, but I didn't quit. I knew from the program it would be slow, small steps and when/if something happened, it would just snowball. Well, that finally happened after 4 1/2 months. Out of no where she asked me to come back to our bed. We had been getting along and not arguing for quit a while, more than we ever had. Within a week from coming back to bed, we've been closer and more intimate than ever, including when we first met. Even though I shouldn't have been surprised, I was. Everything just happened like Mort said it would, as long as I stayed dedicated and patient. We reconciled and have agreed that we need to make each other a priority, even over our 4 and 7 year old, on a daily basis. I honestly never thought we'd get here but I didn't give up and I'm glad I didn't. Not only did I lose all the weight, we both dedicated ourselves to not just making our marriage work, but making it amazing and things have already become amazing at this point. We're excited for what the future holds. I can't thank Mort enough. I've given Mort's info to quite a few friends and family, whether or not they're having marriage problems. I know I couldn't have been the husband I've become without his program.

EVERY couple should do the marriage fitness program with Mort Fertel. Even couples who feel that they have a good marriage and are not in a crisis would benefit greatly because it would only enhance their relationship and make it that much better. There truly is nothing more important. My marriage was in a crisis and he without a doubt turned it around for the better and saved my family. I never thought so much good could come out of such a bad situation but Mort showed me the way and I am so grateful. Do not hesitate. Give yourself this gift and your life will be truly transformed.

I started this program in January (end of) and am now coming up to the very last session. I feel it's somewhat helped but my husband is incredibly persistent about getting a divorce still even though i see that he's noticed the changes and sees the improvement. He won't really talk to me, i cant do touch charges because he never comes over and is always with the "other woman", he won't tell me where he works, won't tell me where he lives and so i can't really do much or initiate the touch/talk charges as much as i like, he rejects my calls, ignores my texts. What am i supposed to do about all that? And all of his attention is on the other and her kids? The constant bullying me to file for divorce? He sees the changes and the change in my behavior. I put him above all else. I help him when he needs and he finally said he trusts me again but i still can't trust him. And i havent seen any drastic changes in him/his behavior to show that he'll give her up anytime soon or come back or that he wants this as much as I do. What else can i do when he's constantly ignoring me, rejecting my calls, won't say where he works or where he's living? He makes it hard to get this program to work because he is so stubborn

In 2012 after 11 years of marriage my husband and I began the battle to save our marriage. After much searching, and not feeling fully satisfied with the pastoral and professional counsel we were receiving... we came across a link to Mort Fertel's website. Soon afterward we began the The Marriage Fitness Audio Learning Program. With the help of the information we learnt, a willing partner and the mercy of God, we were able renew our Marriage in ways that we could have only believed possible. On the 18th of February, we celebrate our 17th Wedding Anniversary. We are so thankful to be here, loving each other and making a difference in the world. We're thankful that our marriage encourages others.We've recommended Marriage Fitness to friends and would recommend to anyone who's willing to do what it takes. We know from experience that awesome marriages are possible.

This program is worth every penny. I didn’t realize it at the time because it took a year to work the Lone Ranger track. It is entirely possible to be the hated spouse whose world has been thrown into a tornado and come out the other side with a better marriage than before. My husband told me he didn’t love me and wanted a divorce (2decades of marriage and a few kids). It was OVER. 2 marriage therapists and a divorce care group told me to accept it and there was nothing I could do if he wanted to leave. Many friends tell me now they supported me but didn’t really think it would ever work out.

I scoured the internet for a program and thought, “ I want the best, saving my marriage is worth every cent.” It took a long long long excruciatingly slow time to work. Did you notice the last part? It worked. Just last week he took my face in his hands and told me how much he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.

I came across this program out of desperation after a Google search of "how do I save my marriage" I was already going through the worst experience of my life. My wife moved out about 4 months prior to my discovery of the program, and had a legal separation agreement drawn up. We tried marriage counseling and it didn't help, in fact things got worse. I signed up for free e-mails which I found helpful in and of themselves, and after a couple of weeks of research into this, I took the plunge and ordered the Tele-fitness boot camp. I was skeptical, but hopeful I would be one of the success stories which seem to be in abundance. I completely immersed myself into the program, and put my best effort into it. I made the decision to do the lone ranger track, and not even tell my wife about it. I wanted to learn as much as possible, so she could see legitimate changes in me. It has been difficult because I am working the principles very slowly, feeling to rush will do more harm than good, and although we remain separated, I believe I am beginning to make very slight progress. I'm here to tell you that if you are having marital problems, IT IS NOT TOO LATE. Mort Fertel genuinely cares! This is an all inclusive, comprehensive program that will answer all of your questions and give you the clarity you seek. I strongly recommended Marriage Fitness.

After 30 plus years of marriage, we finally found each other! Our marriage was in shambles and I was about to give up on our long life together. My husband convinced me to stay in the marriage and that he would do anything to save it. I found Mort's Marriage Fitness program (since neither one of us wanted to create a more toxic relationship by seeing a marriage counselor). We went through the Marriage Fitness program together and continued on for a total of two and one-half years. The positive approach and underlying principles of this program saved our marriage--it is not a blame game as one will find with a marriage counselor, typically. We often review Mort's excellent resources and reference materials and continue to follow the basic principles re: love and marriage, which are common sense when one thinks about it, but we tend to forget them the longer we are married.. We love each other more now than we did when we were first married and will never give up the happiness, joy, and peace we have found. We truly are soulmates!

I'm just in the initial stages of the program and the advise and principles Mort teaches sound spot on. Unfortunately, I just told my spouse, that I was working the program and he seems to be pulling away from me even more now. I'm kind of wishing I hadn't mentioned anything. Because the day before I did was awesome and now he's rejecting me a ton. I was hoping there woukd be advise on how, when and if you should tell your spouse you are working the program. Given that we are currently separated.

Dear Mort,
This whole program has saved my marriage and I believe we are finally strong enough to stand on our own. We were on the verge of separation and now we are inseparable. I haven't called in for many months now, always too busy being with my husband!!

I appreciate everything you have done for us and all the tools... Your program makes sense and is worth every penny.

We will continue to implement what we have learned for the rest of our lives.

We have given out your website and books to many people and will continue to do so.

Please continue to do what you do!!

Many blessings to all of you who make this program happen.

I think Mort has the right ideas. I myself have a lot of trouble coming up with the "talk charges" he prescribes. If I could I think this would work great.

Mort's program and sound advice helped my husband and me heal our very broken marriage. He had moved out and filed for divorce. After I purchased the Lone Ranger program and began to implement it, my marriage drastically improved! We are now doing the program together, living together, but most importantly, making "love" in our marriage!

A little over a year ago I thought my marriage was over. She was moving out. After getting Morts free e-mails and sharing with her I was able to talk her into the Tele-Course. One year later and we are happier than ever and back together. Thank you Mort.

How thankful I am that I found Marriage Fitness when my husband left me just before our 29th anniversary! He said he did not love me anymore. Shortly after that he asked for a divorce. I was devastated. But thank God I found the Marriage Fitness Boot Camp! I devoured Mort Fertel's materials and followed his advice, and it worked!!!! After 2 months of separation, my husband returned home! As I write this, it has been 3 months since we reconciled!!! After being on the verge of divorce, we are instead on our way to having a healthy marriage! Even though I finished the program, I still review some part of it every day to keep focused and to make sure I stay on track. The program guides you every step of the way. It is well organized and had everything I needed. I gladly tout the praise of this program. I am a real person and this is my real story and miracle!

Happy Friday Mort

It is an extremely happy friday for me as my wife told me this morning that she will not be moving out march 1 and that she no longer wants a divorce.
What a shift !! Thank you for your coaching and the marriage fitness program.
You really gave me hope that I could turn things around if I worked on myself and follow your plan. I got really frustrated a couple times and hearing your encouraging words helped me to hang in there and keep doing the talk charges and touch charges and fixing myself.
Thank you for the work that you do and the difference your expertise makes.
May your goodness return to you a hundred fold.

Joy Lehman

Mort and Marriage Fitness Team -- I cannot thank you enough for this fantastic Program. In November 2016, I was steeling myself for divorce, reading about what would be involved so I could prepare myself mentally, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically... I met with a divorce lawyer for a free consultation. I met with a spiritual advisor who assured me that sometimes people are not meant to be married and God would never give up on either of us. My heart was not set on pursuing divorce, but I felt utterly stuck in our love-lacking marriage of 23 years and did not know how to proceed. It was a desert experience for all 3 of us (me, my husband, our son) these past many years, filled with angry silence, outbursts of blame, unresolved hurt. My husband finally moved into another bedroom about 3-1/2 years ago. For years, my mindset was to embrace the One after whom I try to live -- picking up and carrying my cross daily, with forgiveness and focus on Resurrection. I knew we were horrible examples for our 11-year old son. I was filled with anger and totally out of ideas. My husband, living a life of principle and attending daily Catholic Mass, seemed set on living life without me. I felt like a failure, growing up in a large family with parents who are still married after 64 years, and very much in love with each other, and tremendously supportive siblings and in-laws. I have NO IDEA who signed me up on your website, but I am grateful to and for whomever that was. Truly divine intervention.

Shortly after I met with the divorce lawyer, I was laid off work. I have been the sole breadwinner for our little family for many years. I figured God's hand was somehow in my loss of work for the second time in two years, knowing I was vulnerable to emotional infidelity. That's when I received Mort's e-mail thanking me for visiting his website. I was baffled, and resistant, at first. After receiving several e-mails, I finally decided to dive in. I had nothing to lose. In worst case, I would learn and surely become a better person. In best case, I would learn ways to help heal and renew our marriage and family. I pulled out my credit card, filled with Hope and determination to listen and follow attentively. I did. I could relate to most everything you said, and with many of the questioners, and was repeatedly surprised by your recommendations. Your recommendations flew in the face of actions I had taken in feeble attempt at reconciliation. Because I was not working, I was free to spend HOURS listening, reading, journaling, observing myself and the culture in which I live.

My husband is still distant, but VERY MUCH more engaged than he has been these past years. He actually talks to me now. He still reprimands me, and to my knowledge, has not yet started listening to the Program or reading the materials, but it's possible he has. I have invited him -- more than once, of course --, and let it go. I am working fiercely on my "own fixing," as you say.

My immediate game plan is to continue re-listening to your material. Each session is packed with information. I have heard you coaching me in my mind, and find I am much more patient and peaceful now in the way I respond than I was in the past. I have even found myself delighted when my husband has expressed anger towards me -- it's way better than his silence.

My hope is to go through the Program with my husband, as a team, to share our reflections with each other. If that does not happen, so shall it be. I just started a new job this week, so I see how many puzzle pieces are fitting together. I know that God has not, and will not abandon us pitiful but precious children who call upon God's help and guidance.

Thank you for restoring Hope in my life. Thank you for rekindling Faith. I know each day is part of a long process/walk/journey, and I gladly take each step. I see how my parents (ages 93 and 88), so very different in compatibility, have grown in deep love with each other over the years, still walking hand-in-hand, tenderly kissing each other and touching each other's hands and cheeks affectionately. They have been through some tough times... together. None of their wonderful qualities is part of my life at this moment, but I believe those qualities will come. They are the "old love" in your closing poem.

Thank you again for your on-target, creative life message. Every time I thought of a laser question to ask, I found it answered in something you said in the lessons or Q&As, so I never did schedule a session. What a gift you have been in my life. I have already recommended the Marriage Fitness Program to several of my siblings. I am still taking inventory of the many changes I need to make in my life.

Margaret

I am only on step two but my perseption has changed from feeling hopeless and helpless to I feel optimistic and encouraged. I feel more positive about the outcome.

Hi Mort,
I want to tell you that your free emails and the five audios saved my marriage. I live in Australia and searched the net intensely to find help. I signed up to your emails and stuck by what you encouraged, to not share them with my husband. He was not only having an emotional affair but also having a mid life crisis; an impending 50th birthday.

In short, our marriage has been marred by numerous affairs for many years, of which I've stuck by him. I can only say I have done this out of love for him and our two daughters but also that I felt that he really was worth forgiveness. I am no angel either. I had affairs also, one in particular with his best friend. Payback. Anyway, my husband went several years (as far as I know at least) without cheating on me until about 18mths ago. ( he has worked away from our family in the oil industry for 10 yrs in a camp environment ) developed a connection with a woman at his head office, young enough to be his child (we have two daughters aged 25 and 22) she was 25.

Apparently it was one sided; he had an infatuation with her and thought it could work but it supposedly wasn't reciprocated. He kissed her at a work party. I found out and pretty much went psycho after all I've been through with him. It was over for me, how could I possibly go on after everything I'd already been through with him. A very long story short, he found out I was receiving your emails and wanted to know what I was reading. I told him, he read them, he was interested. He told me after reading the last of the 10 emails that it was the first time he had actually made a decision to stop doing what he's being doing for a long time. Cheating. He realised he had never actually CHOSEN to stop his behaviour. A bit like keeping his options open?. Anyway, I'm so happy we chose to work it out, yet again, this time though we have the tools you have taught us to keep our marriage healthy.. We've been married 23yrs.
Thank you xxx
BF, Australia

His advice is simple and brilliant. We had no respect left for each other anymore. We treated each other like garbage and blamed each other for everything wrong in our marriage. If you have the guts to swallow your pride and follow his advice to the letter it it will change your dead marriage into a relationship FAR better than when you first fell in love. It did for us and we will never be the same.