Elder Abuse & the failed System
My mother was being abused at home by my sister who arrived from the US stating she was going to look after our mom even though she didn’t need looking after…
She proceeded to take over her life and isolate her from all … we couldn’t get hold of our mom for 2 years… mom eventually had a series of strokes and my sister tried to treat her at home proclaiming that she is a nurse (which she isn’t).. my sister had some serious mentally health issues and the system knows this due to her behaviour and nothing is done… was advised by the police etc that they cannot do anything until she harms herself or someone else! eventually mom was taken to hospital .. that’s how we found out what was happening because we had no access to our mother… one week later the hospital wants to discharge mom back home… I protested and raised the alarm and a safeguarding …20 safeguardings have been raised by the hospital rehab and the care home to no avail so far….whilst in hospital for the next 2 months mom could no longer be walk… !! deterioration was fast because my controlling sister was allowed to sleep in the hospital bed next to mom for a week before they threw her out.!! That’s when they eventually saw what I was complaining about. Mom then went to rehab then to a care home where she is now… whilst in hospital my mother couldn’t do much on her own and couldn’t write…she would now need 24 hour care… I warned the hospital that my sister would attempt to do a LPA for mom… they said they wouldn’t allow it and would keep a look out since my sister was giving the ward hell and trying to run the whole ward… she was kicked out of the ward by security for trying to run the ward and accusing staff of abuse… but she was lowed for 2 months to run riot on that ward…
A year ago when mom was in hospital we found out that my sister had forged mom’s signature on an LPA … I immediately requested info of who was in the documents… I had to name names before they would even attempt to respond to me… if you don’t have any idea of who could be on the document they won’t respond…
I contacted the OPG and put in a request to have it revoked… so did social services and the rehab centre…. We heard nothing for a year …no one could get hold of the OPG … I finally get a letter the beginning of Feb 2026 asking if I would like to take on the Deputyship for my mom… no reply’s to whether it had been revoked…I said no because we knew that all hell would break out with my sister and the harassment would be non stop…they see it as a family dispute who bit isn’t as we don’t have any contact with this sister even when she lived in the US for over 40 years as we know she’s not right…
I was given 3 days to reply as to whether I would like to take on this role … to which I did … and said NO….because they need to get a grip and take control of thw whole situation they have more authority ….the next stage would be for the OPG to put things in place… until now I cannot even get hold of them… the women who is dealing with this case has received all emails and requests to reply to me I was told by the staff on the OPG front desk that she is sitting at her desk at her computer… they don’t care …its all about money… my sister came back to the UK for mom’s finances… we complained to the bank… they said there’s nothing they can do even to freeze mom’s accounts .. my sister refused to give SS a financial statement … and has also set up online banking which my mom never used and withdraws mom’s money at cash points which again my mom never uses she always went into the bank to the counter…I know of similar if not worse cases of elder abuse and the system turns always… my mom is now on her 8th social worker who you cannot even get hold of…they just keep reshuffling them…. it’s all about money and pure neglect ….and they are getting paid to do nothing…
The systems are collapsing and there’s no where to turn unless you pay for a service that won’t do a thing….








