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Alexis is an absolute professional, after much studying on what happened and realizing my ex was an appointment I was lucky enough to seek out Alexis. As a former avoidant himself you truly sees thing... See more
I give Alexis a 5 star review. I went from not sleeping at night and being stalked by my ex(who dumped me overnight after a 2.5 yr relationship/situationship) on social media to moving on and developi... See more
I only spoke with Alexis once but he was so kind, so insightful, yet direct. It was just one session but he gave me hope. The next day I was back with ex. In hindsight I should of continued with Al... See more
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The Avoidant Therapist helps people who are stuck in anxious-avoidant relationships understand what is really happening, calm their attachment system, and make clear decisions about their love life. The Avoidant Therapist was founded by Alexis Friedlander, an attachment specialist, therapist and content creator based in London. Alexis is a former dismissive-avoidant who became securely attached, so he explains avoidant behaviour from the inside: why avoidant partners pull away, go quiet or end things suddenly, and what actually helps. Most of the people we work with are anxiously attached and dating, or recovering from a breakup with, an avoidant partner. They come to us overthinking, checking their phone, and unsure whether to stay, wait or walk away. Our work is built on the Secure Base Method, a four-stage process: Calm: settle the anxiety and break the addiction loop. Reprogram: change the beliefs and patterns driving the dynamic. Expose: practise secure communication in real situations. Decide: choose, from a secure place, whether this relationship is right for you. We offer the Secure Base coaching programme, one-to-one coaching, live events and masterclasses, alongside more than 380 free videos on The Avoidant Therapist YouTube channel, where over 27,000 subscribers have been learning about attachment for the past seven years. Clients tell us they chose us because the approach is genuine, ethical and practical, with no manipulation tactics and no promises to "get your ex back". The goal is your own security, whatever happens with the relationship. Master your attachment, you master your relationships. Learn more at theavoidanttherapist.com
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4 Lonsdale Road, NW6 6RD, London, United Kingdom
- +44 7926 549390
- alexis@theavoidanttherapist.com
- igetmyexback.com
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Alexis helped me to reach my own…
Alexis helped me to reach my own conclusion which was better for me.
Best in his field
I've watched the videos of pretty well every major counsellor in the relationship recovery field and this guy is easily head and shoulders above the rest. Incredibly engaging videos that explain both the psychology and also provide really practical guidance. I spoke with Alexis on his free 15 minute intro session and he was excellent - focussed, frank and helpful. No heavy sales pitch. The advice I got from that and his videos set me up perfectly to re-engage my ex and start seeing her again. Couldn't recommend him more highly.
Incredible advice and great speaker.
Best coach ever....
Soothing
He takes his time to actually know the root cause and helps find lasting solutions to your unique situation
Thank you Alexis for all your…
Thank you Alexis for all your videos..It helped a lot during my sadness times..Kudos to you and more power!
Alexis has amazing skills to understand…
Alexis has amazing skills to understand and guide you in the process of self-recovery after a breakup. The WhatsApp coaching is very insightful and his texts are strikingly precise to motivate you to make the right moves during the process. It is as if he had the magic touch. It can be challenging sometimes but his work is honest and very professional and supportive.
You Won’t be Disappointed
Working with Alexis has been incredibly helpful. He gives great advice, listens and has been very supportive. I took the advice he gave me and it seems promising I will get my ex back. My ex and I are in a much better place 😊
I am lucky to meet him.
I was difficult for me to figure out my real situation. He showed me the way for living for myself.
I'm so glad I met Alexis
I'm so glad I met Alexis. He seriously helped me a lot to focus on the more important stuff in my relationship. My girlfriend and I have been trying our best to communicate more and it's pretty much going good so far.
Coaching has been excellent
Coaching has been great. It allowed me to express feelings of concern.
Alexis has been able to answer all my questions and speaking to him was like speaking to a friend.
His knowledge had helped me understand my faults
Thank you! :)
Thank you. He was very kind and was very honest with me. What he said also made me feel better even though our conversation wasn't that long. I'm glad I reached out to him 🤍
I got my ex back
Similar to many people who have a relationship come to an unexpected end, I felt devastation and a bit of anxiety. I was looking around for advice and found Alex's youtube channel. Alex's Youtube videos were extremely helpful in my situation. I also had a session with Alex in which he listened to my situation and gave me other valuable tips to aid my situation. First and foremost if you are reading this and you are going to a break-up, I highly recommend you watch Alex's videos, avoid contacting your ex and stop if you are. I also recommend having a session with Alex as early as possible.
Always get good honest advice.
These past months have been some of the…
These past months have been some of the most difficult I have experienced my entire life. Having remote access to Alexis and his counsel has been soothing. I am considering reaching out via WhatsApp. I just wish he was located in the US.
My situation was helpless before I…
My situation was helpless before I contacted you Alexis. I remember when we spoke initially you gave me insights about my situations right away. You are very talented to read people's situations. Your tips were always spot on. My ex getting back to me so keen, I couldn't believe it. Thanks for everything!
Alexis has been the most helpful and…
Alexis has been the most helpful and supportive thru my experience.
God bless you 🙏🏽
Alexis a true professional
Working with Alexis is like working with a true friend, he takes his time to listen and understand all the problems and difficulties that you may be facing in your life and will help and guide you every step of the way.
Alexis really cares about your world…
Alexis really cares about your world and is very easy to talk to. His opinion is honest and no hidden agenda to generate money dishonestly. Integrity and skill in his profession is unquestionable. 🤗
Thank you so much Alexis for your help
Thank you so much Alexis for your help! Having the opportunity to chat on WhatsApp was so helpful. I think I would have said the wrong things otherwise and would not be back with Emily.
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