I've watched the videos of pretty well every major counsellor in the relationship recovery field and this guy is easily head and shoulders above the rest. Incredibly engaging videos that explain both... See more
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Alexis is an absolute professional, after much studying on what happened and realizing my ex was an appointment I was lucky enough to seek out Alexis. As a former avoidant himself you truly sees thing... See more
I give Alexis a 5 star review. I went from not sleeping at night and being stalked by my ex(who dumped me overnight after a 2.5 yr relationship/situationship) on social media to moving on and developi... See more
I only spoke with Alexis once but he was so kind, so insightful, yet direct. It was just one session but he gave me hope. The next day I was back with ex. In hindsight I should of continued with Al... See more
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The Avoidant Therapist helps people who are stuck in anxious-avoidant relationships understand what is really happening, calm their attachment system, and make clear decisions about their love life. The Avoidant Therapist was founded by Alexis Friedlander, an attachment specialist, therapist and content creator based in London. Alexis is a former dismissive-avoidant who became securely attached, so he explains avoidant behaviour from the inside: why avoidant partners pull away, go quiet or end things suddenly, and what actually helps. Most of the people we work with are anxiously attached and dating, or recovering from a breakup with, an avoidant partner. They come to us overthinking, checking their phone, and unsure whether to stay, wait or walk away. Our work is built on the Secure Base Method, a four-stage process: Calm: settle the anxiety and break the addiction loop. Reprogram: change the beliefs and patterns driving the dynamic. Expose: practise secure communication in real situations. Decide: choose, from a secure place, whether this relationship is right for you. We offer the Secure Base coaching programme, one-to-one coaching, live events and masterclasses, alongside more than 380 free videos on The Avoidant Therapist YouTube channel, where over 27,000 subscribers have been learning about attachment for the past seven years. Clients tell us they chose us because the approach is genuine, ethical and practical, with no manipulation tactics and no promises to "get your ex back". The goal is your own security, whatever happens with the relationship. Master your attachment, you master your relationships. Learn more at theavoidanttherapist.com
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4 Lonsdale Road, NW6 6RD, London, United Kingdom
- +44 7926 549390
- alexis@theavoidanttherapist.com
- igetmyexback.com
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Alexis was absolutely wonderful to talk…
Alexis was absolutely wonderful to talk to about my particular situation. His way of understanding and advice was very valuable to me.
2 December 2021
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist
Thanks Mark for this kind review
Thanks Alexis for your help
Thanks Alexis for your help. You are a great listener, I really feel better now!
29 November 2021
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist
Thanks Yara, glad I could help.
Definitely recommend Alexis with breakup coaching!
Alexis listened fully and empathetically. He provided an assessment of my situation that was spot on, getting at some of the deeper underlying issues as well as some of the more practical things I should be focusing on. Definitely recommend speaking with Alexis!
29 November 2021
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist
Thanks Katie!
Brilliant idea to give 15mins…
Brilliant idea to give 15mins consultation.
Alexis advice was comprehensive within the 15mins well worth it.
Alexis thank you for your help.
29 November 2021
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist
Thanks Steve!
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